Wise man, wise heart

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How to understand it: Those who can see the problems of others are called smart, and those who can see the advantages of others are called wisdom.

From a psychological point of view, a person who can see other people's problems will prove that he is excellent and that he is better than others... This means that his mind temporarily stays in the dimension of narcissism, and he may care more about his own feelings .
But if you can see the advantages of others, and you can give affirmative praise, this is the dimension of living in a relationship. Because he sees the advantages of others, and then expresses them sincerely, the other party will be very happy, indicating that he is living at such a psychological level to establish a relationship with the other party.
This is a very intelligent performance.

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In life, we often see the presentation of two states.
Love to suppress subordinates and elevate their leaders,
A boss who loves to affirm the merits of employees and positively affirms them;
The mother who likes to pick on the faults of her children and always compares them with "other people's children", the parents who use a magnifying glass to find the advantages of their children and do not hesitate to applaud;

Lovers who can't help but pick on the other half's minor flaws and even hate words, like to encourage their partner and appreciate their partner's lover from the bottom of their hearts. ...Everyone is using a different mind to water their relationship, and they will inevitably reap different happiness.

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Of course, having said that, whether it is smart or wise, it is just the presentation of our subconscious mind.
People who like to pick faults often have a lot of fear in their hearts. They are afraid of affirming others, others will be high, and they will be low.
For them, falling at a low place means a deep abyss, and there is a huge danger hidden - in order not to put themselves and their family members in danger, this is also a kind of love in itself.

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Very smart people are not necessarily wise. In fact, people who are too smart (the top 15% of logic and reasoning skills) may be too proud or too focused on career achievements to balance relationships, which may lead to deviations in motivation and values.
For example, people with IQs above 180 place a high value on academic achievement, learning, education, and science, but less on emotional stability, social life, and peer interaction.
However, wisdom does require a certain amount of intelligence as a basis, and the more open to the outside world and the more understanding of oneself, the more intelligent.

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Thousands of complexities, all living beings, smart people are constantly building walls, and smart people are desperately building bridges.
The wall is built higher and higher, blocking the danger outside and blocking the flow of heart and love. The more bridges are built, the more loving links will arise, which will surely lead to a wider distance.

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In life, one must be wise and wise. Build walls and bridges. There is narcissism and there is attachment. In this way, Fang has his own sense of worth and the ultimate sense of happiness in his life.

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